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What are adults without kids? (Louis C.K. with advice for dads)

Sorry for the lack of posts this week.  Lots of craziness going on, so this has fallen to the side.  We’ve scheduled Noah’s birth date for September 20….so keep that in your prayers.  And Megan, because it’s hot.  Freaking hot.  So hot that we set an Oklahoma record in June for the most days over 100 degrees.  And she’s carrying around a mini-human.  Ridiculous.

I found this video on Father Apprentice a few weeks ago.  It’s great stuff from funny-man Louis C.K.  Enjoy.

 

What are your plans for the 4th of July?

More Please

Today we have a guest post from my friend Al Di Salvatore.  Al has a stud little boy named Keane and has been married for 6 years.  He’s planting a church in Maryland, and he’s a lover of all things involving Philadelphia sports, bless his soul.  Check him out on Twitter and his blog.  Enjoy his post and show some love in the comments.

More Please

I am not a good prayer, but I want to be.

The times when I talk to God the most are the times in my life when things go wrong.

When I need something,
and to be honest,
when want something too.

I can sound like a real baby.

Speaking of baby…

When my son cries and makes a fuss,
I think to myself, “Yup, I can sound just like that.”

Lately he has been doing something that speaks louder than his cries.

It is something that gets my attention and my response.

My wife and I have been teaching him sign-language to help him communicate,
since he cannot form a vocabulary yet, other than Elmo, ball, and now hat.

The hand motions work well.

He moves his hands together in a point to say “More.”
and he has got that down especially when he wants Elmo cookies
(they are pretty good too, I have had some myself).

Recently he has learned to use the sign for “Please” (rubbing his stomach).

When he cries out of manipulation, not when he is hurt,
I have learned to tune it out until his crying spell has passed.

I do listen and respond when he motions the word “please.”

I cannot help it, compelled to answer his pleas.

The same way when he is crying for my attention,
there is this moment when he will just lift up his hands,
out of sheer desperation and surrender.

I pick him up,
carry him,
and kiss him.

I never understood why people would raise their hands in worship,
mostly I would do it because other people did it (or if there was a key change).

It is a spiritual communication that goes beyond cries and manipulation,
into a subtle language and a posture of the heart.

Maybe prayer is more about communicating with God,
than simply just trying to get his attention.

Maybe worship is less about getting what I want,
and more about surrendering.

Maybe this is what child like faith is all about.

Usually a Dad would want his son to be like him,

this time I have found myself wanting to be like my son.

 

Have you ever found yourself wanting to be more like your kid(s)?

Happy Mother’s Day

Treat your mother right.  Cause Mr T said so.

Seriously though, we would be a train wreck if not for moms.  To my mom, to my wife, and to all the moms out there, thank you.  You breathe life into our families, you sacrifice on behalf of us and our kids, you care for and raise our children with the servant heart of Jesus.  You are beautiful and we love you.

Happy Mother’s Day.

I Love It When A Plan (Doesn’t) Come Together

Today we have a guest post by none other than Mr. Aaron Bird. Aaron is the proud husband to Shelly and cool dad to Lana and Ian.  They reside in sunny southern California where he works for a major theme park.  A self-proclaimed geek (though Shelly would agree), he plays Dungeons & Dragons, reads a lot of blogs, loves everything “tech” and volunteers at his church.  Also, he takes amazing iPhone pics.  Sometimes I open the Instragram app just to see what he’s posted.  Seriously.  Check out his post and show him some love in the comments.

 

I like being spontaneous (on my terms) and doing things on a whim.  I enjoy the freedom of not being tied to an agenda.   Other times I like having a plan, even if that plan is to do mostly nothing.  When a plan changes due to external forces like an unforeseen circumstance, I tend to grumble.  Just ask Shelly.

I planned the Monday after Easter to be my day, a day just for me.  I took the day off and the kids were going to be at Grandma & Grandpa’s house and Shelly was at work.  I had only one thing planned…to get the oil changed on the car.  The rest of day was probably going to be at Starbucks reading blogs till my eyes got blurry from squinting at a laptop screen for several hours.

So it was going to be me, myself & I.

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Good Friday

Being that it’s Good Friday, I thought it appropriate to share this song/video from John Mark McMillan.  Not that is has to do with fatherhood.  Then again, maybe it has everything to do with being a dad.

Celebrate this weekend, friends.

Normal

I realized yesterday, as I was walking through the house, how “normal” everything has become.  Not in terms of our life being boring, but in how all the changes that take place after having a kid become second-nature.

A train set in front of the small couch, with Thomas & Friends scattered about.

One of 847 Land Before Time movies providing background noise.  (Or Wonder Pets, or Toy Story, or Blues Clues, etc)

Building blocks strewn across the living room, the leftovers of small towers that have since been destroyed.

Curious George playing on the laptop.

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Dreaming

When I was a kid, I often dreamed.  I wasn’t big on fantasies or creative stuff, but I was still a dreamer.  Generally, like most boys that played sports, I dreamt of being a professional athlete.  Specifically, playing in the NBA.

I dreamed of Michael Jordan kicking the ball out to me behind the 3 point line with 2 seconds left in Game 7 of the NBA Finals, down 2, and me draining the shot over the outstretched arms of my defender.  Championship, clinched.  (Thank you John Paxson and Steve Kerr for making this dream seem not so ridiculous).

As I got older, I my dream changed.  Music became something I was passionate about – though I have absolutely zero talent other than playing a varity of D, C, G, Em on the guitar.  Then again, I guess that qualifies me to be a worship leader – zing!

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Changing the Game

I read this post on EpicParent.TV last week.  It was a guest post by Craig Groeschel about Parenting World Changers.  It was an incredible post, and something I’ve been stewing on for several months.  It is stirring some things that I hope are significant.

It’s funny, how predictable we all are.  When parents sit around talking about their kids, the conversation is almost always the same.

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Guys Night In

The Mrs. is out of town for a few days this week.  That means it’s just me and the boy.  Thankfully, we have good friends that have invited us over for dinner tonight, out of concern that I suck at making dinner.  Their concern is valid.  Unless you consider Chipotle to be a quality dinner.  And lunch.  And breakfast.  Which, I do.

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Raising Kids in a Digital Age

We are assaulted by information each day.  65 million tweets are sent.  Every day.  There are more than 700 Facebook statuses updated.  Every minute.  The amount of advertisements we see per day is outrageous.  We check our phones for news, scores, weather, gossip, pictures, email.  It’s no secret that we are living in the digital age.

And I love it.  I’m a technology junkie.  I’m attached at the hip to my iPhone.  I love my MacBook (thought I love my wife’s more).  I love having a Roku instead of cable, so that I can watch what I want, when I want, for a lot less money.  I spend all day online.  Most of it is for my job, but I also keep tabs open for Twitter, Facebook, ESPN and several news sites as well.

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